Time to Assess the Lakewood Community

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We are all familiar with the saying “closing the stable door after the horse has bolted.” The “oh my what just happened?” Why wasn’t I more vigilant?

Tonight in Lakewood, New Jersey an event was cancelled due to pressure from the powers that be. It was to be an evening of song and merriment with food and wine,starring two very popular singers from the frum Jewish world. It was decided by the hanhala that this event would possibly attract the wrong element, become rowdy and then possibly turn into an evening of mingling even though it was a kumzitz for men only.

In What Has happened to Lakewood, I outlined the premise of the Torah town and how the nouveau riche have had a snowball effect on the community. It is no longer just a Torah town. The big wheels have moved in. They want the glitz and glamour of city life in the suburban setting of Lakewood. The town has evolved. A new generation resides there now. The change started slowly with a few city dwellers moving in and building their mansions but like a train gathering speed as it leaves the station it has taken on a life of its own. We cannot expect this new city influx to adhere to the standards of kolel folk. They are cut from a different cloth.

Now that we have established that the community’s wants and desires have taken on a whole new dynamic we cannot really admonish them for being angry when this musical event was cancelled. The laissez-faire attitude should have been nipped in the bud years ago. Rules should have been laid down by the Yeshiva who started the community and presumably run the town. Unfortunately, the horse has bolted and he isn’t coming back. Many youths in Lakewood would have attended this event which was arranged by religious singers. The food was glatt and the venue was kosher. Alternative places to “chill” will be sought after and not always in the most desirable of locations.

One of the singers spoke and graciously accepted the Rabbis’ Psak because he is from the old generation where Rabbonim are listened to and their word respected.

I think it’s time for all concerned to assess the community in the cold light of day. Getting together with Rabbis, teachers and leaders and try to steer the ship on an even keel by not being too drastic or too lenient. A keen understanding of all types is needed now to keep some semblance of achdus in this ever-changing booming community, which few will remember as the sleepy, seaside town of Lakewood, New Jersey.

 

2 comments

  1. Thinking on it. There’s not much to say as I am not so familiar with lakewood in regard to the nouveau riche living there & the time frame in which lakewood expanded (and to what degree). I just know this: the rabbi’s there may be wholeheartedly attempting to live the torah life with the values they have been raised with. HOWEVER, the world, general values & morals, as well as orthodox living, is no longer the same as it was 35 years ago. Unfortunate as that may be, it is fact. Our youth is exposed to a society full of ‘desirable’ & ‘enviable’ items (items = for lack of better word) that entice them to try & do things that my generation did not have or do. These same rabbi’s need to wake up & jump into reality & desist with demeaning & banning every attempt by others to provide a safe & ‘kosher’ party/concert/etc for fear that it will destroy ‘frumkeit’!!!! Hello??? Frum life is NOT the Taliban. Our torah teaches us to engage in our world, to take pleasure in our religion, to be compassionate, truthful & kind, to show gratitude to Gd as well as to our fellow human. To enjoy & rejoice with music, flowers/sunlight/azure skies, family, holidays. HE is a Gd of eternal forgiveness & compassion. I dont, for ONE SECOND, believe that He wants us to suck the life out of life & living, with the fangs of a devil, and destroy happiness, destroy friendships, destroy love of religion, and break up families. It is time for the ‘lakewood rabbis’ to pull their heads out of the mud & rejoice in our beautiful orthodox way of life THE WAY IT IS TODAY, and lead our children by example – NOT by what NOT to do, but rather with smiles & acceptance of these events which would cause many of our young to be happy for a few hours. That’s about it. The raving madwoman’s voice will now be still.

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