As the point of this article has been made and in compliance with a large number of our readers, this article has been archived. The original version is available for reading upon request.
There are still some of the main points of the article detailed below.
The purpose of the original article was to shed light on the efforts of some groups in our community and to help express a large majority’s opinion of those efforts. Now that a new reasoning has come to light, there is a chance that it will be employed and utilized to help our community in the shidduch sphere. We are sorry for those who were offended by the article and we would just like to point out that the purpose was not to bash those seeking to aid the community but to just guide them in a direction that many members of the community deem more suitable for our society as a whole.
Thank you for reading.
A plan to help our singles in the community:
Gather together all of the best shadchanim and hire them as full-time employees. Regular, 9-5 employees. Pay them a salary, whatever makes sense, say, 65k to 80k per year. Give the shadchanim office space, phones, computers, give them all the tools they need to succeed in shidduchim. These shadchanim will be considered regular employees, they can even be assigned quotas and have goals set to determine a certain amount of dates per week they must “set up” etc. Let them work solid week after week to help marry off the singles in our community.
If these shadchanim make a successful shidduch and the parents want to pay them for the shadchanus, great! Let them pay! But it isn’t required, as they are already being paid by the caring wealthy people (and supported by the rabanim, of course) of our community! Paying these salaries should not prove too difficult for the outspoken wealthy families in our community. Hopefully. I am certain that others would be more than willing to donate money to such a lofty cause.
If more money is donated to this cause? Great! Hire more full-time shadchanim! The more the merrier!
A program like this not only ensures that there are top shadchanim working tirelessly to aid our community, but it also ensures that:
They are fairly compensated for their time, work, and effort.
Everyone in the community has access to top shadchanim.
Shadchanim are no longer incentivized to set up rich families with other rich families over families of lower socioeconomic status.
Families are no longer pressured into paying “high-end” shadchanim more than they can, for shidduchim they present to the family.
The Bottom Line:
Hire full-time shadchanim and pay them regular salaries. If others want to donate to the cause, let them, but it cannot be required of them.
I hope to write a full response soon, but for now this will have to do.
After reading this article, all I could think to myself was, “Oy. When will this stop?”
It seems the cinematic drivel that is One of Us, has released the flood gates. It’s now an “in” thing to bash and debase the frum/yeshiva community for all the “oppressing” it commits and to “uncover the truth” of its primary goal (to raise their children as uneducated morons).
In lieu of my full response to the above article and this new, sickeningly inane, phenomenon. And to all those poor unfortunate souls who were so downtrodden by their religious Jewish communities, I say this:
OYY!! I feel so bad for you! Wahhhhhh Wahhhhh! Hope you feel better soon! Free hugs!!
Note: Been getting texts from many of you asking what set me off on such an angry tirade. At least, angrier than usual. Well it’s simple. This issue is something that started popping up everywhere. It’s becoming increasingly popular to blame everyone else (as opposed to one’s own self) for one’s shortcomings. This has to be nipped in the bud. Obviously this requires extensive conversation. Feel free to call during business hours. 2097838369 – A Thinking Yid.
I will not be able to stress this enough. These disgraceful animals are not representative of the Ultra-Orthodox and Chasidic Jewish communities.
If anyone knows this BRAVE חיילת, PLEASE let her know that the orthodox Jewish people of America and Israel stand behind her!!
We know our apologies do not wipe the spittle from her face but we hope she hears and believes us when we say: Thank you for your service. Thank you for standing your ground. Thank you for protecting our land!
As an Orthodox Jew, I would like to make some things clear. No one, not one single person, would even notice the Eruv unless someone else pointed it out to them. Most of us (orthodox/observant Jews) don’t even know where the Eruv is situated exactly.
As part of a recent debate, we would like to poll the knowledge of Gilgulim in the Jewish community. Please respond truthfully. An article regarding this topic and addressing the polling results will be posted in a few weeks.
If anyone would like to submit an article on the topic please use the submit link on the homepage.
I am asking this as seriously as I can. I am not referring to the “Shidduch crisis” that currently “plagues” our community. An achievable solution has already been formulated, albeit, not put into action. I digress.
Something that always irked me but I never really spoke about was the current state of Simchas Torah in our community. To me, Simchas Torah was represented by the usual assortment of rowdy individuals, many of whom picked up a Gemara* maybe 12 times this year, dancing in a raucous crowd of giddy, inebriated, and puerile adults.