In the vibrant tapestry of our Jewish communities, the stories of Baalei Teshuva, or those who grew up frum but have since strayed, often capture our collective imagination and admiration. Their journeys of transformation, marked by significant lifestyle changes and renewed commitments to Torah and mitzvos, are undeniably compelling and worthy of celebration. The ability to leave behind a secular life, or return from one of decreased observance, to fully embrace Torah living, embodies a profound personal and spiritual metamorphosis.

But there’s another narrative that, though less dramatic, is equally deserving of recognition and commendation—the narrative of those who have remained steadfastly observant throughout their lives, often referred to as Frum From Birth (FFB). These individuals have navigated life’s vicissitudes while firmly rooted in their frumkeit, often resisting temptations and societal pressures that could easily lead one astray.

The difference in the nature of challenges faced by each group is striking. Baalei Teshuva, or those who left the frum world, often overcome external barriers, radically altering their environments, lifestyles, and sometimes, their entire worldviews. This transformation is visible and measurable, making their stories inherently dramatic and inspirational. On the other hand, the FFB community faces more subtle, internal trials and struggles—maintaining spiritual vibrancy in the face of monotnous routine, upholding halachic standards amidst a modern world, and preserving a passionate engagement with Torah despite the distractions of everyday life. These challenges might not make headlines, but they require no less fortitude and resilience.

It’s important to realize that the effort to remain frum and grow within the framework of halacha, minhag, and community should not be underestimated. The quiet, consistent dedication of the FFB population forms the backbone of our kehilos. These individuals may not have dramatic stories of “return,” but their day-to-day perseverance in Torah observance and mitzvos should be nothing short of inspiring.

While we rightly praise Baalei Teshuva, and those who return to frumkeit, for their courage and determination to realign with their roots, we must also extend our admiration, recognition, and support to those who have never wavered. Their lifelong journey of commitment might lack the sharp contours of a drastic teshuva narrative, but it is filled with its own struggles, victories, and hashkafic depths.

As a community deeply committed to Torah values and minhagim, it is crucial that we acknowledge all paths of religious engagement and commitment. We must ensure that our communal narratives, events, podcasts, Whatsapp groups, and shiurim are comprehensive, acknowledging both the spectacular transformations of Baalei Teshuva and the steadfast devotion of the FFB community. Each journey enriches our kehilos, teaching us different facets of commitment and perseverance.

In essence, while we continue to embrace and uplift our Baalei Teshuva, let’s also ensure we honor and support those who have diligently maintained the torch of Torah, mitzvos, and minhagim of old, often quietly and without fanfare. Both narratives are critical; both are gallant. Our community’s strength lies in its range of experiences and the mutual respect and admiration we foster for each derech.